Though it is a natural reaction to the death of a loved one, grieving can be an emotionally draining process. Whether it is a loved one, a relationship lost, or even a significant life shift, loss usually moves through predictable phases during loss. Understanding these phases can assist you in sorting through your emotions and healing over time. People may go through these phases many times or in different sequences. Remember that these phases do not have a straight-line process.
- Denial.
Often, the first reaction to a tremendous loss is one of denial. You can find yourself in a condition of doubt, unable to accept the truth of the circumstances. At this point, you can gradually absorb the emotional toll of the loss, a defense mechanism for you. For someone who has lost a loved one, for example, it is conceivable for them to keep expecting that person to show up as if nothing has changed.
- Anger
Denial starts to fade, and often it is replaced with anger. One may feel angry against the person they lost, another person, or even oneself. Among the several possible expressions of rage are frustration, bitterness, and contempt. Permitting oneself to experience this emotion will help one avoid suppressing it. Because it enables you to approach acceptance of the loss, the expression of anger is a common reaction that can be regarded as a valuable part of the grieving process.
- Bargaining
You can ponder “what if” or “if only” possibilities throughout the negotiating process. You could start wishing to return and change the event to stop the loss. People often experience guilt during this period since they could blame themselves for not being able to prevent the loss or wish they would have handled the matter differently.
- Depression
Regarding the phases of grieving, depression is maybe the most challenging. Involved in it are deep depression and despair. You can feel a great sense of powerlessness or a distance from other people. Usually, this stage’s symptoms consist of a loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy, trouble sleeping, and social activity avoidance. Though it is uncomfortable, this stage helps you to accept the scope of your loss.
- Acceptance
Acceptance shows that you have come to terms with the loss; it is not the same as being “over” it. People who attain this level begin to acclimate to life without the person or object they have sadly lost. While still honoring their loss, they search for ways they might move forward. Acceptance helps one be calm in the present moment.
Contact Waves of Calm Counseling for the Stages of Grieving
You do not have to navigate through grieving alone, it can be impossible. At Waves of Calm Counseling, we offer a compassionate setting where you can work through your loss and find healing. Please get in touch with us immediately to arrange a session, and let us guide you toward acceptance and peace.